I have too.
All of it.

I spent years cycling through every program that promised results. Restrict more. Push harder. Just be more disciplined.
And then one day at a bootcamp, I pushed so hard they had to carry me out.

Not metaphorically.
I literally had to be carried out.

And lying there, I didn’t think: I need to try harder.
I thought: something is wrong with this approach.
Because I wasn’t lazy. I wasn’t unmotivated.

I was a mom of eight running on years of broken sleep, back-to-back pregnancies, and a body that had been giving everything to everyone for decades.

And I kept choosing programs designed for none of that.
You cannot run an extreme program on an empty tank.

Most large-family moms in midlife are not just a little tired. They are years deep into broken sleep, chronic stress, hormonal shifts, and a mental load that never fully powers down.
That is a body already running on borrowed energy.

So when you add aggressive calorie restriction, high intensity cardio, and a complete overhaul of how you eat and move and live onto a nervous system that is already maxed out
Your body doesn’t transform. It protects itself.
Holds onto fat.
Tanks your energy further.
Makes consistency feel impossible.
Confirms every fear you had that you just don’t have what it takes.

You do have what it takes.
You just needed a plan built for the body you actually have. Not the body of a 28-year-old with one kid and a free afternoon.
The women I work with have tried everything.
That’s not baggage. That’s data.
It tells me exactly what hasn’t worked
and exactly where we start instead.